I am over rape.
I am over rape culture, rape mentality, rape pages on Facebook.
I am over the thousands of people who signed those pages with their real names without shame.
I am over people demanding their right to rape pages, and calling it freedom of speech or justifying it as a joke.
I am over people not understanding that rape is not a joke and I am over being told I don't have a sense of humor, and women don't have a sense of humor, when most women I know (and I know a lot) are really fucking funny. We just don't think that uninvited penises up our anus, or our vagina is a laugh riot.
I am over how long it seems to take anyone to ever respond to rape.
I am over Facebook taking weeks to take down rape pages.
I am over the hundreds of thousands of women in Congo still waiting for the rapes to end and the rapists to be held accountable.
I am over the thousands of women in Bosnia, Burma, Pakistan, South Africa, Guatemala, Sierra Leone, Haiti, Afghanistan, Libya, you name a place, still waiting for justice.
I am over rape happening in broad daylight.
I am over the 207 clinics in Ecuador supported by the government that are capturing, raping, and torturing lesbians to make them straight.
I am over one in three women in the U.S military (Happy Veterans Day!) getting raped by their so-called "comrades."
I am over the forces that deny women who have been raped the right to have an abortion.
I am over the fact that after four women came forward with allegations that Herman Cain groped them and grabbed them and humiliated them, he is still running for the President of the United States.
And I'm over CNBC debate host Maria Bartiromo getting booed when she asked him about it. She was booed, not Herman Cain.
Which reminds me, I am so over the students at Penn State who protested the justice system instead of the alleged rapist pedophile of at least 8 boys, or his boss Joe Paterno, who did nothing to protect those children after knowing what was happening to them.
I am over rape victims becoming re-raped when they go public.
I am over starving Somalian women being raped at the Dadaab refugee camp in Kenya, and I am over women getting raped at Occupy Wall Street and being quiet about it because they were protecting a movement which is fighting to end the pillaging and raping of the economy and the earth, as if the rape of their bodies was something separate.
I am over women still being silent about rape, because they are made to believe it's their fault or they did something to make it happen.
I am over violence against women not being a #1 international priority when one out of three women will be raped or beaten in her lifetime -- the destruction and muting and undermining of women is the destruction of life itself.
No women, no future, duh.
I am over this rape culture where the privileged with political and physical and economic might, take what and who they want, when they want it, as much as they want, any time they want it.
I am over the endless resurrection of the careers of rapists and sexual exploiters -- film directors, world leaders, corporate executives, movie stars, athletes -- while the lives of the women they violated are permanently destroyed, often forcing them to live in social and emotional exile.
I am over the passivity of good men. Where the hell are you?
You live with us, make love with us, father us, befriend us, brother us, get nurtured and mothered and eternally supported by us, so why aren't you standing with us? Why aren't you driven to the point of madness and action by the rape and humiliation of us?
I am over years and years of being over rape.
And thinking about rape every day of my life since I was 5-years-old.
And getting sick from rape, and depressed from rape, and enraged by rape.
And reading my insanely crowded inbox of rape horror stories every hour of every single day.
I am over being polite about rape. It's been too long now, we have been too understanding.
We need to OCCUPYRAPE in every school, park, radio, TV station, household, office, factory, refugee camp, military base, back room, night club, alleyway, courtroom, UN office. We need people to truly try and imagine -- once and for all -- what it feels like to have your body invaded, your mind splintered, your soul shattered. We need to let our rage and our compassion connect us so we can change the paradigm of global rape.
There are approximately one billion women on the planet who have been violated.
ONE BILLION WOMEN.
I STOLE THIS POST, FROM A BLOG REPOSTED BY ROSIE ODONNEL. I STOLE IT BECAUSE I AGREE WITH IT COMPLETELY. THERE IS NO JUSTICE FOR THE PERSON ON THE RECIEVEING END OF RAPE. LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK?
Thanks for your time,
Christy
Sunday, November 13, 2011
Tuesday, August 16, 2011
About the Starting a new business
March 18th, 2002....a day I will never forget.
I had missed putting an ad in the phone book by two weeks. DANG IT! (What was I thinking?)I had spent all of the $750.00 that I had to spend. (What was I thinking?) DANG IT!! My, now Ex-husband, said it was never going "to fly", as he put it, "What the F are you thinking?" (What was I thinking?)
I was thinking....I have groomed dogs my whole life, since I was 10 years old (in my mother's shop.) I AM really good at it. I negotiated EVERYTHING perfectly, and didn't borrow a dime from anyone, and OWE no one. I was thinking...I'VE GOT THIS!!!
I knew I was on a budget. I had $750.00 from our tax return, last 4 years the EX had gotten to spend it how he wanted. It was my turn, period.
I set my plan in motion a year ago, almost exactly. I went to a local dog grooming shop that I knew needed help. I told the owner that I would take the job for a year. It got my face and name associated with the dog grooming world, LOCALLY. I had heard that a different shop had gone out of business. I seeked out the owner of the building, and set up a meeting. A commercial building that was already set up for my kind of business...Perfect!! I went to see the building and location. I talked to the owner. He wanted $500.00 Deposit and first months rent, AND A LEASE. (scary) I said, "Here's what I know . I have been doing this my whole life. I havnt got ANY confirmed customers. I do know I'm dedicated, but...I ONLY have one month's rent saved up, and I'm scared to death of a lease today. I can PROMISE to pay an extra $50.00 per month toward my deposit, and I will sign a 5 year lease in six months if this shop works." he said, "Sounds great!!" Don has turned out to be the best landlord, and friend, that I could have EVER hoped for.
I had a store front!! Yeah!! CHECK Now I needed stuff. I scoured yard sales for cages, clippers, a table, brushes, scissors, and blades. CHECK I painted the cages for the front of the shop and made cages out of $15.00 hog panels for the back room. CHECK I hand painted plywood signs for the front and back of my building. CHECK I placed an ad in the Wednesday newspaper. (Wed & Sun are best!) CHECK. Now I just needed people to show up!?!?!?
Monday morning...I showed up and guess what?.... So did CUSTOMERS!!! CHECK!! Success!! The first year I did about $30k....five years later it doubled. Not bad for a "Chick" with some "balls", Hua? (The Ex quit his job completely and I was our family's only source of income for 8 years of our 14 yr marriage)
Side note....I have watched several other dog grooming businesses come and go, over the last 10 years. I know of two in particular that just simply had too much overhead. One of them bought a $180,000.00 building and took out a $12,000.00 loan to buy ALL NEW cages and equipment. Just couldn't make enough money to pay the bills, let alone LIVE.
Be CONFIDENT in your abilities. Live within your means. NEGOTIATE. Do what you can with WHAT you HAVE. You'll do GREAT!!
I had missed putting an ad in the phone book by two weeks. DANG IT! (What was I thinking?)I had spent all of the $750.00 that I had to spend. (What was I thinking?) DANG IT!! My, now Ex-husband, said it was never going "to fly", as he put it, "What the F are you thinking?" (What was I thinking?)
I was thinking....I have groomed dogs my whole life, since I was 10 years old (in my mother's shop.) I AM really good at it. I negotiated EVERYTHING perfectly, and didn't borrow a dime from anyone, and OWE no one. I was thinking...I'VE GOT THIS!!!
I knew I was on a budget. I had $750.00 from our tax return, last 4 years the EX had gotten to spend it how he wanted. It was my turn, period.
I set my plan in motion a year ago, almost exactly. I went to a local dog grooming shop that I knew needed help. I told the owner that I would take the job for a year. It got my face and name associated with the dog grooming world, LOCALLY. I had heard that a different shop had gone out of business. I seeked out the owner of the building, and set up a meeting. A commercial building that was already set up for my kind of business...Perfect!! I went to see the building and location. I talked to the owner. He wanted $500.00 Deposit and first months rent, AND A LEASE. (scary) I said, "Here's what I know . I have been doing this my whole life. I havnt got ANY confirmed customers. I do know I'm dedicated, but...I ONLY have one month's rent saved up, and I'm scared to death of a lease today. I can PROMISE to pay an extra $50.00 per month toward my deposit, and I will sign a 5 year lease in six months if this shop works." he said, "Sounds great!!" Don has turned out to be the best landlord, and friend, that I could have EVER hoped for.
I had a store front!! Yeah!! CHECK Now I needed stuff. I scoured yard sales for cages, clippers, a table, brushes, scissors, and blades. CHECK I painted the cages for the front of the shop and made cages out of $15.00 hog panels for the back room. CHECK I hand painted plywood signs for the front and back of my building. CHECK I placed an ad in the Wednesday newspaper. (Wed & Sun are best!) CHECK. Now I just needed people to show up!?!?!?
Monday morning...I showed up and guess what?.... So did CUSTOMERS!!! CHECK!! Success!! The first year I did about $30k....five years later it doubled. Not bad for a "Chick" with some "balls", Hua? (The Ex quit his job completely and I was our family's only source of income for 8 years of our 14 yr marriage)
Side note....I have watched several other dog grooming businesses come and go, over the last 10 years. I know of two in particular that just simply had too much overhead. One of them bought a $180,000.00 building and took out a $12,000.00 loan to buy ALL NEW cages and equipment. Just couldn't make enough money to pay the bills, let alone LIVE.
Be CONFIDENT in your abilities. Live within your means. NEGOTIATE. Do what you can with WHAT you HAVE. You'll do GREAT!!
Saturday, April 9, 2011
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
My Back Story ;~*)
Hi. My name is Christy. I'm a Wife, Mother of Two children (Boy who is 12, and a Daughter that is 21. I Have a wonderful Son-in-law and He and my Daughter are giving me my first Grand-Daughter, this July. I'm SOOOOOOO excited about being a Grandma!
I grew up the Daughter of a Dog Groomer. I started working in my Mother's Shop when I was 10 years old; after school, weekends, and summer vacations. It wasn't "FUN" at the time, but I learned a lot! I've tried several other things, but have always come back to grooming dogs. I have been a professional dog Groomer, and FORMER dog breeder, for over 30 years. Five of those years were on the Dog Show circuit. Needless to say, I have a TON of experience in the Dog world.
Ask me anything??? I would be HAPPY to answer your questions about; Specific Breeds BEHAVIOR and characteristics, General HEALTH (I am in NO WAY claiming to be a Vet. I have NO formal Medical training, but will offer "friendly" life educated advice), or what kind of haircut you might like for your pet. Ive been known to SAVE people LOTS of Money, because I really enjoy helping people get the MOST out of, and BEST Possible, relationship with their pets.
WARNING!! I will ALWAYS give you TRUTHFUL, as I see it, advice for your questions! Sometimes you won't like it, but it WILL BE THE TRUTH!!
And away we GOOOOOOO...
I grew up the Daughter of a Dog Groomer. I started working in my Mother's Shop when I was 10 years old; after school, weekends, and summer vacations. It wasn't "FUN" at the time, but I learned a lot! I've tried several other things, but have always come back to grooming dogs. I have been a professional dog Groomer, and FORMER dog breeder, for over 30 years. Five of those years were on the Dog Show circuit. Needless to say, I have a TON of experience in the Dog world.
Ask me anything??? I would be HAPPY to answer your questions about; Specific Breeds BEHAVIOR and characteristics, General HEALTH (I am in NO WAY claiming to be a Vet. I have NO formal Medical training, but will offer "friendly" life educated advice), or what kind of haircut you might like for your pet. Ive been known to SAVE people LOTS of Money, because I really enjoy helping people get the MOST out of, and BEST Possible, relationship with their pets.
WARNING!! I will ALWAYS give you TRUTHFUL, as I see it, advice for your questions! Sometimes you won't like it, but it WILL BE THE TRUTH!!
And away we GOOOOOOO...
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